What bugged me - and a lot of other feminists - this week was this article written by Suzanne Venker for Fox News: http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2012/11/24/war-on-men/#ixzz2DCqldWN8
Jezebel, one of my favoritest sites ever, already posted two amazing and hilarious replies. (Here: http://jezebel.com/war-on-women/ and here: http://jezebel.com/5963161/fox-news-publishes-shocking-expose-on-the-war-on-men?tag=war-on-women)
Even though they put it wonderfully, I still have a few things to say about this piece.
First of all, one statistic about how women want to marry more than men do does not give you the authority to claim that this is because women are fighting a war on men and men are pissed off about it. There's very little that you can speculate about it. You could maybe say that it's evolutionary, because women feel the biological need to have a man help support their offspring. You could say it is societal because women are spoon-fed this idea of fairy tale endings and that it is shameful to be an older woman who is not married. Or that men are given this idea of marriage being a form of slavery, and so they are afraid of commitment.
Other than that, Venker has absolutely no substantial evidence for her wild claims.
And second of all, none of it is true. All of her remarks are disgustingly sexist as Jezebel points out (and mocks), but they're also so unrealistic.
Men who are pissed off because they have to "compete" with women are not worth having or being around at all. Men who are upset because they are no longer the primary bread-winner, or the only bread-winner, are giant whiney babies who do not deserve to be married to a decent woman. None of those men that Venker is talking about are real men at all (if I could be hypocritical for a moment and claim that there is such as thing as "real" men).
No woman should want to be around those men, and I, personally, do not. I don't want to be all braggy or look-how-perfect-my-husband-is, but he seriously thought this article was bullshit, and most other guys probably do too.
So maybe the problem with our society is that women are taught that they need men, emotionally, financially, to kill the spiders, etc., so they settle for men that are obviously beneath them.
Although that is also wild speculation based on narrow, personal observation.
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